Probate Lawyer in Gramling, SC

About The Cobb Hammett Law Firm Difference

As seasoned probate lawyers in South Carolina, we understand that Estate Administration often involves sensitive family dynamics as much as it does the legal minutia involved in probate law. After all, a person's estate not only affects their generation but the generations that follow.

But when your loved one passes, their assets must be managed and distributed correctly. When mismanaged, disputes often arise between parties like the Beneficiaries, Trustees, Heirs, or Executors of a Will. Even when everything is managed the right way, arguments and misunderstandings can still occur, and even evolve into bitter legal battles necessitating probate litigation.

It stands to reason, then, that you should hire a probate lawyer in Gramling, SC to help. But the truth is, many attorneys don't have vast experience with probate and trust work. If they do, they aren't usually seasoned trial attorneys. That's what separates probate attorneys at Cobb Hammett, LLC from others - we have the ability to help plan your Estate and litigate estate disputes if they arise.

We are keenly familiar with local probate judges, courtroom staff members, and the related procedures involved with South Carolina probate law. Our intimate knowledge and experience help us successfully navigate the probate process to complete our client's cases quickly and efficiently.

But that's just one aspect that sets Cobb Hammett apart from other firms. Understanding the importance of personalized attention, we also make an intentional decision to limit our law firm's overall caseload. This allows us to better focus on individual clients, many of whom remain with us for generations. We do not pass off cases to paralegals or junior associates but rather prioritize the attorney-client relationship. We value compassion and integrity, and our practice reflects those values.

Moreover, trust is one of the most important aspects of the attorney-client relationship. We work to create an open, friendly environment in which you can feel comfortable. After years of experience, we boast the skill and experience necessary to earn that trust - and that's a priceless commodity when it comes to probate cases in South Carolina.

Understanding The Probate Process in South Carolina

When a loved one passes away, it's natural to go through a time of emotional adjustment. However, it's crucial for the family of the loved one to face the financial realities of their estate. That reality includes the probate process, which involves distributing assets and settling the estate. A probate attorney in Gramling, SC is often recommended to assist during this time. This process isn't just recommended - it's often a legal responsibility in South Carolina.

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Steps to the Probate Process in South Carolina

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Delivery of Will Upon Death: During probate, the first step involves having a will delivered to an Estate Administrator or to the probate court. The deadline to accomplish this task is 30 days.

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A Personal Representative is Assigned: This individual is often named in a Will and should be appointed officially by the court.

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A Notice is Sent to Intestate Heirs: If these heirs feel that they should inherit, they have a right to challenge this step.

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The Estate is Inventoried and Appraised: This process must occur within 90 days of opening an estate. In some estates with valuables like jewelry, art, and property, professional appraisers may be needed.

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Settling Accounts: During this step, the estate must pay any applicable taxes, ongoing expenses, or outstanding debts. Should the estate not have enough money to pay these debts, creditors must be paid according to South Carolina code.

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Distributions: If there is money in the estate after debts are paid, those funds are given to heirs of the estate, according to the Will or the State.

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Discharge: As soon as any claims are paid, the personal representative of the estate will file documents to close the estate. To make this official, the court will issue a Certificate of Discharge.

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Avoiding Probate in South Carolina

Though most estates in South Carolina must go through probate, it is possible to avoid. This happens when a decedent's assets are placed in a Living Trust prior to their death. In this scenario, beneficiaries must be designated in order to inherit the estate. Suppose there are funds that have been promised to beneficiaries via life insurance policies or bank accounts with "payable upon death" designations. In that case, those funds do not have to go through probate.

Assets subject to probate in South Carolina include:

  • Interest in an LLC, Partnership, or Corporation
  • Real Estate Held as a Tenant in Common
  • Property Held in Only the Deceased's Name
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Assets that are not subject to probate in South Carolina include:

  • Assets Placed in a Trust
  • Assets Which Are Already Tied to a Beneficiary
  • Pension Plan Assets
  • Insurance Policies with Beneficiaries
  • Beneficiaries of Retirement Funds
  • Real Estate or Property with Right of Survivorship
  • Real Estate or Property with Joint Tenancy
  • Accounts That Are Transferable or Payable Upon Death
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Avoiding Probate: Yes or No?

Though it's not always possible, some families go out of their way to avoid the probate process in South Carolina. Doing so can help save money in the long run and also expedite the distribution of funds to heirs. By avoiding probate, you're also keeping personal matters private.

Because every person has different estate and probate complexities, it's hard to say whether avoiding probate is good or bad. Whether or not you should avoid probate depends on your unique situation. As a general rule, it's always best to consult with a probate lawyer in Gramling, SC, for honest feedback and probate assistance.

Typically, having a Living Trust or a Will in place will make transferring assets easier. A little prep ahead of time will make a world of difference when your loved one passes away. After all, nobody is ever prepared for a relative or family friend's death, but a compassionate, trustworthy probate attorney can make the process easier.

FAQsSouth Carolina Probate FAQs

For many families, "Probate" is a dirty term that involves heartbreak and headaches. And while the probate process in South Carolina can be complex and stressful, having answers to some of the most common probate questions can help put your mind at ease.

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My family member recently passed away, and we're considering their estate. How long will the probate process take?

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The time it takes an estate to go through probate in South Carolina varies depending on a number of questions, including:

  • Does the deceased have a valid will?
  • Is the Estate complex or large?
  • Is the Will contested?
  • Have any lawsuits been filed?
  • Is the personal representative of the estate efficient?

When conditions are good, a small or simple estate usually takes about a year to close. More complicated estates may take longer.


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My loved one mentioned opening a Trust to protect my assets. What is a Trust, and what Trusts should I consider?

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As is the case with most probate decisions, opening a Trust should be based on your unique situation and guidance from your probate attorney in Gramling, SC. With that said, a Trust is meant to hold property for your loved one's benefit. When a Trust is created, assets are transferred into the said Trust and managed accordingly. Though there is a common misconception that Trusts are reserved for the wealthy, just about any family can benefit from opening a Trust.

The most common types of Trusts used in probate include:

  • Living Trust: These trusts are opened and controlled by you while you're still living. When you pass away, the assets in the trust are distributed to the beneficiaries you choose. Typically, these trusts do not go through the probate process.
  • Testamentary Trust: These trusts are usually established after you pass away and are included in your will. These trusts must go through the probate process in South Carolina, though they allow for the distribution of property within a certain time frame.
  • Special Needs Trust: This type of trust gives financial support to your loved one if they are disabled.

When conditions are good, a small or simple estate usually takes about a year to close. More complicated estates may take longer.


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What happens when somebody dies without a will in South Carolina?

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When a person passes away without a Will in South Carolina, the state decides who gets their decedent's assets. This is also called passing intestate. When this happens, usually only spouses, blood relatives, or registered domestic partners can inherit property according to intestate succession laws.

Relatives who receive the probate property of the deceased are usually chosen in the following order:

  • Living Spouse
  • Children or Grandchildren
  • Parents
  • Brothers or Sisters
  • Grandparents
  • Uncles and Aunts
  • Extended Family

If you're in need of a veteran probate lawyer in South Carolina, look no further than Cobb Hammett Law Firm. With years of experience in Estate Administration and probate cases, our team is ready to serve you with excellence and protect your interests. Have additional questions? We're here to help. Contact our office today to learn more about Estate Administration in South Carolina.

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Planning your estate is the first step to take if you want to protect your family, your assets, your well-being, and the fruits of your hard work.

At Cobb Hammett, LLC, our team of experienced probate lawyers in Gramling, SC, can help you navigate the entire Estate Administration process. Through creative legal strategies and a clear understanding of your goals and desires, we work together to make your asset and estate visions a reality. It's never too early to get your estate in order. In fact, estate planning is important for everyone, whether you're single or married, young or old, with or without children. If you're ready to protect your assets and be prepared for probate, contact Cobb Hammett, LLC, today.

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District 1 announces Teachers of the Year

District 1 Schools recently announced its 2012-13 Teachers of the Year for each school and the Teacher of the Year.Teacher of the Year for District One Schools and Chapman High School Teacher of the Year is Mrs. Erin Gramling, English/ language arts. Gramling is a graduate of the University of South Carolina Upstate, has a master's degree in education and has been teaching for seven years, all at Chapman High.Gramling teaches ninth and 10th grades and serves as cheerleading coach for the Chapman Competitive Cheer...

District 1 Schools recently announced its 2012-13 Teachers of the Year for each school and the Teacher of the Year.

Teacher of the Year for District One Schools and Chapman High School Teacher of the Year is Mrs. Erin Gramling, English/ language arts. Gramling is a graduate of the University of South Carolina Upstate, has a master's degree in education and has been teaching for seven years, all at Chapman High.

Gramling teaches ninth and 10th grades and serves as cheerleading coach for the Chapman Competitive Cheer Squad. She is married to Trey Gramling.

Mrs. Gramling says, “With support, a student can be successful. I want to teach because I have an opportunity to give, selflessly, every day. Teaching is rewarding because my heart almost bursts with happiness when I am able to help children believe in themselves. Since I am only one person, the reality that I am expected to be the teacher, parent, mentor and counselor for each child is overwhelming. Since I rely on prayer to guide me through life, I am able to achieve a sense of peace as I begin each day.”

Mrs. Anna Hodge is the Campobello-Gramling School Teacher of the Year. She has been the art teacher at Campobello-Gramling School for 12 years and holds a master's degree in education.

The Teacher of the Year for Holly Springs-Motlow Elementary School is Mrs. Melissa Lark, who teaches third grade. Lark has been teaching for 20 years, all at Holly Springs Motlow Elementary. She holds a master's-plus-30 degree.

Mrs. Mary Somers, special education teacher, is Inman Elementary School's Teacher of the Year. She has taught for 32 years, 17 of those at Inman Elementary. She has a master'splus- 30 degree.

Media specialist Amber Keeran is the Teacher of the Year for Inman Intermediate School. She has taught for 26 years as a media specialist, special- education teacher and public library media specialist.

Col. Robert Sanders is the Landrum High School Teacher of the Year. Sanders holds a B.S. in engineering from West Point and a master's degree in counseling from Auburn University. He spent 28 years in the Army and has been an ROTC instructor for eight years.

Landrum Middle School's Teacher of the Year is Mrs. Jackie Putman. Putman has been teaching for 28 years and for six years at Landrum Middle School. She has a master's-plus-30 degree.

Mrs. Tammy Starosto is the Teacher of the Year for Mabry Middle School. Starosto has taught for 28 years and has been a math teacher at Mabry Middle for four years. She holds a master's degree.

O.P. Earle Elementary Teacher of the Year is Ms. Anna Mathis, who teaches fourth grade at O.P. Earle. Mathis holds a B.A. in elementary education and is elementary and middle level math-certified.

Mrs. Gayle Elrod serves as guidance counselor for New Prospect Elementary School and represents the school as Teacher of the Year. Elrod has taught special education for nine years and has been school counselor at New Prospect for five years. She has a master's degree in guidance and counseling.

Teacher of the Year for Swofford Career Center is Mrs. Tracy Thornton, who teaches graphics and printing at the school. She has been in that position for 11 years. She has degrees from Spartanburg Community College and career certification from Clemson University.

The Teachers of the Year were honored by the District 1 Board of Trustees at a dinner in their honor on Aug. 13. Each teacher received a name plaque to be placed outside the classroom door identifying him or her as Teacher of the Year. They were also recognized at the annual District 1 Convocation of all staff on Aug. 16.

Call, email or mail Ashley Dill at:

-- 864-562-7272

-- ashley.dill@shj.com

-- Town Square, Herald-Journal, P.O. Box 1657, Spartanburg, SC 29304

Life in Our Foothills February 2022 – Beloved Educator Betty Barnwell

Getting your Trinity Audio player ready... Betty Barnwell and Campobello-Gramling SchoolStory by Erin BoggsOne sunny Saturday this past October I was at the grocery store in Landrum and much to my surprise, I laid eyes upon my sixth grade Social Studies Teacher, Betty Barnwell. She looked exactly the same, and we recognized each other instantly. She info...

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Betty Barnwell and Campobello-Gramling School

Story by Erin Boggs

One sunny Saturday this past October I was at the grocery store in Landrum and much to my surprise, I laid eyes upon my sixth grade Social Studies Teacher, Betty Barnwell. She looked exactly the same, and we recognized each other instantly. She informed me that she had just celebrated her 90th birthday. For the rest of the day, I was transported back in time thinking about that era in my life and how much I loved being a student of Mrs. Barnwell.

The year was 1986 – There I was, a sixth grader at Campobello-Gramling School. I had been a student there since I was in first grade. It was the awkward, gangly preteen with a bad perm year, the year of my mom’s non-stop sourdough bread baking bonanza, fun outdoor science lessons on the CGS Nature Trail in Mrs. Hilda Goley’s class, and also the year the of Space Shuttle Challenger incident, which happened just one day before my birthday on January 28th. Many of us including myself were in Mrs. Barnwell’s classroom when it happened and she comforted us during that difficult time.

Everyone has at least one early teacher or school who made a big difference in their life. As a child you might not be able to put your finger on or verbalize what made a teacher so special or why that school is so significant to you. Campobello Gramling was an exceptional school back then, and still is today. It has always attracted creative and uniquely gifted educators like Mrs. Barnwell, from Science and Art, to Social Studies and beyond, and in Mrs. Stallard’s P.E. class where we would engage in Disney’s “Mousercise” and Dancercise to “Hey Mickey” by Toni Basil. We were encouraged to be creative, to be thinkers, and to believe in ourselves. Ah, the 1980’s at good old CGS!

Today, many years later, people from outside the school still recognize how special CGS is. Fast forward to only a couple of years ago, when my friend Kirsten Toledo who was at the time the Community Impact Program Associate for the Peace Center in Greenville, asked me if I’d ever heard of Campobello-Gramling School.

Kirsten says “Campobello-Gramling had one of the most positive atmospheres I have ever experienced at a school. There was student art and projects everywhere, the teachers were excited to be there, and their principal (Jeremy Darby) was thoughtful and creative with his use of their resources. Those students not only had the opportunity for a solid basic education, but had opportunities to challenge themselves, experience and create different forms of art, and engage in activities to build problem-solving skills that will give them an excellent and well-rounded educational foundation.”

As a former student there, it was heartwarming to hear someone, after me being there over thirty years ago, feel the same way about the school as I always have.

Social Studies touches on so many subjects, covering history, current events, civics, economics, geography and many other topics, all in one class. Mrs. Barnwell’s class was right up my alley. In fact, I went on to complete my undergraduate degree in social sciences. The way she taught the class was to engage every student. We were encouraged to actively participate by presenting and commenting to the class what we thought about our assigned topics. One day every week we covered current events. There wasn’t any sitting and listening to just one person talk and take notes. The way Mrs. Barnwell led the class made every student feel included, heard and respected.

Recently I got to sit down and talk with Mrs. Barnwell after all of these years, and finally got to know about some of her life experiences that make her so special.

Though she was born in Polk County, NC and raised in Gramling, I did not know how extensively she has traveled the U.S. She even lived in California on and off for over eight years, which was rare for our area during that time. She brought this experience to the classroom and encouraged us to have an open-minded approach to learning and understanding new things. She taught us to think, confidently verbalize our thoughts, and to listen to and respect one another.

Mrs. Barnwell is an immeasurably strong woman, who has suffered what many would consider unimaginable losses of loved ones throughout her life. At age 15, before her mother passed, Betty made a promise to her mother that no matter what, she would finish all of her schooling. Many years later, after she returned from California with her husband, Mrs. Barnwell got her certificate and began teaching at CGS. She says she got into teaching to fulfill that promise to her mother and because she wanted to help children.

After an 18 year teaching career at CGS, Mrs. Barnwell finally retired and still lives on the original Barnwell estate in the beautiful, tranquil Gramling area. I am so lucky and grateful to have been at CGS at the same time as her. I know many of my classmates feel the same.

She is a life-long member of Gramling United Methodist Church, and credits the church and its members for most of what helped her endure the loss of her parents at a young age. Throughout her life, the church has been a constant source of support and fellowship, and she says she doesn’t know what she would have done without it.

Mrs. Barnwell is a dearly loved mother of four, one of whom is the late Barney Barnwell who was a world-renowned fiddle player in the Plum Hollow Band, formed in 1974. The band still plays today at the Plum Hollow music festival and other venues.

For more information on Campobello Gramling School, go to https://www.spart1.org/campobello-gramling_home.aspx

If you are interested in hearing “Mousercise” circa 1982, check out https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ft8lKycReao

For information and to learn more about the history of the Barney Barnwell Moonshiners Band, go to https://www.moonshiners.com

Gramling Brothers Real Estate & Development: Pride in What They Build

Ben Gramling built his reputation in the Lowcountry on the residential side of the real estate business, developing one of the largest and fastest-growing master-planned communities in the state. In the past eight years, however, Gramling Brothers Real Estate & Development has moved boldly into commercial development, especially in Mount Pleasant.The company, originally based in the Upstate, has purchased four tracts of land along Coleman Boulevard. Construction on buildings that will house restaurants and office space is well und...

Ben Gramling built his reputation in the Lowcountry on the residential side of the real estate business, developing one of the largest and fastest-growing master-planned communities in the state. In the past eight years, however, Gramling Brothers Real Estate & Development has moved boldly into commercial development, especially in Mount Pleasant.

The company, originally based in the Upstate, has purchased four tracts of land along Coleman Boulevard. Construction on buildings that will house restaurants and office space is well underway on two of them.

A three-story building is scheduled to be completed by the end of this year where Coleman Boulevard and Lansing and Broadway streets intersect. Further east, at the site of the former Fonduely Yours restaurant, construction on a two-story, 12,000-square-foot building is moving along on schedule.

Gramling Brothers also owns the location of the now-defunct Boulevard Diner and the properties behind and beside it, as well as the Peach Orchard Plaza, a shopping center bounded on the east by the other end of Broadway, which forms a semi-circle that touches Coleman in two places.

Gramling, a third-generation builder and developer, is well aware of the controversy that surrounds Mount Pleasant’s off-the-charts growth, and he said he intends to remain above the fray. He’s not taking sides.

“Building is a very delicate process,” he commented.

“We want to maintain the character of the town. Our goal is to do the right thing.”

Mikell Harper, vice president of business development for Gramling Brothers, explained why the company decided to play a key role in the development of Coleman Boulevard.

“It’s the heart of the town,” Harper said. “When people come to visit Mount Pleasant, they come to Shem Creek, which is ground zero for it all. Businesses want to be there and people want to live there.”

The building at Lansing, Broadway and Coleman, across the street from Metto Coffee & Tea, will be the new home of The Kickin’ Chicken restaurant and will serve as the headquarters of Ameris Bank. Gramling said the third floor of the 30,000-square-foot building has not yet been rented. The developer also owns the land behind the building, which will be 50 feet tall, five feet more than the current maximum at most places on Coleman. When Gramling Brothers bought the property, the limit was 55 feet.

Despite the unexpected zoning change, Gramling Brothers is satisfied that the property will turn out to be a good investment. A traffic light already in place will provide easy access for tenants and customers of the restaurant.

“It’s a good corner. When we bought it, there were plans for landscaped medians in the center of the road, so there was a premium on signalized intersections. We had a hunch this would be a valuable property,” Harper said.

The Granary, a restaurant currently located in the Belle Hall Shopping Center, will be moving to the building that once was home to Fonduely Yours. Gramling said Dunes Properties and Hibbits Insurance also are renting space there.

Harper said there are no firm plans yet for the Boulevard Diner property, which includes an office building and Automotive Excellence, a business that has been in that location since 2001. He pointed out that one of Gramling’s partners, Roberts Perry Miller (RPM), The Kickin’ Chicken’s parent company, has moved into the office building behind the former restaurant, and that the auto repair shop would remain, for now, on a short-term lease.

The same is true for the tenants in Peach Orchard Plaza, where Gramling’s partner is Rusty Bennett. Harper said they all are on leases of five years or shorter.

According to Harper, Gramling Brothers currently is working on “six to 10” commercial ventures in the Charleston area, including two hotels and an office building downtown, a shopping center in West Ashley and projects on Savannah Highway, Folly Road and Main Street in Summerville. Gramling made his original mark in the Lowcountry in residential construction, developing Cane Bay Plantation, a 4,500-acre master-planned community in Berkeley County consisting of several distinct neighborhoods that eventually will be home to around 7,500 families. Gramling Brothers donated the land for Cane Bay’s elementary, middle and high schools.

Gramling Brothers also developed Reverie on the Ashley, a condominium community on the Ashley River; and Arbor Oaks, Summerhaven and Summer Park, all located in Summerville.

About six to eight years ago, according to Gramling, the company expanded its focus and started looking at the commercial side of Lowcountry real estate. The company’s penchant for “creating comfortable, safe, convenient and beautiful communities that people can proudly call home,” according to its website, apparently has carried over to its commercial projects.

“I’m inspired by Ben’s passion for what he does,” said Kelly Seger, who has served as Gramling Brothers’ director of marketing since 2009. “He thinks about things from every angle. He does what’s best for all involved. It’s great to work with someone who cares so much about what he does.”

Harper, like Gramling, a Charleston resident, echoed her sentiments.

“We live here. He can’t run and hide from something we’re responsible for. We intend to be proud of whatever we build,” he commented.

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Campobello-Gramling School named South Carolina’s Best Reading School

Published 4:38 pm Friday, March 1, 2013For the second consecutive year, the top three finalists for the South Carolina International Reading Association’s Exemplary Reading Schools Award were schools from Spartanburg School District One.Campobello-Gramling School was named the SCIRA Exemplary Reading School for 2013. Holly Springs Motlow School was named an honor/ first runner-up school.District One Schools is extraordinarily proud of this accomplishment and it serves to validate that our schools are at the forefro...

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For the second consecutive year, the top three finalists for the South Carolina International Reading Association’s Exemplary Reading Schools Award were schools from Spartanburg School District One.

Campobello-Gramling School was named the SCIRA Exemplary Reading School for 2013. Holly Springs Motlow School was named an honor/ first runner-up school.

District One Schools is extraordinarily proud of this accomplishment and it serves to validate that our schools are at the forefront of the best in literacy instruction across the state. When making the announcement of the winning school, the Chairman of the Awards Committee stated that all three schools from District One could have been the winner but the International Reading Association recognizes only one school from each state.

Each school was required to submit an extensive paper application that describes the literacy and reading program and covers these areas: the reading program is consistent with sound theory, research and practice; the reading program facilitates student learning; students have access to a wide variety of reading materials; students demonstrate success in reading; comprehension strategies are taught and applied across the curriculum; listening, speaking, viewing and writing are integrated into and support the reading program; administrators and teachers provide leadership and vision for the building and/or district reading program; the school and/or district offer support services to the program; literacy activities occur outside of school; and the community, including parents, is involved in the reading program.

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Spartanburg School District One had several teams of teachers present at the conference to present workshops on our strategies for successful reading schools. Fourteen presentations were given from teachers from Spartanburg District One, including the three Exemplary Reading finalist schools.

Campobello Gramling serves about 765 students in K4-eighth grade.

John Hodge, principal at Campobello Gramling School, said he is extremely proud of the school’s accomplishments.

“Our students, our teachers, and our community worked extremely hard to get to the place where we could receive this award and we will continue to work hard. I am honored to be the principal of one of the three schools in District One who were finalists — what an accomplishment.”

Dr. Ron Garner, Superintendent of District One Schools, Spartanburg, said Campobello Gramling School is to be commended for receiving this honor.

“This recognition only validates what occurs every day in the school and is reflected in the success of the students at Campobello Gramling,” he said. “This is just another example of our district mission to provide a ‘quality, student-centered education. We are just as proud of our other schools that were honored by SCIRA and in our minds, they are all winners for the children we serve.”

– article submitted by Paula Brooks

Adriana Salazar and Ben Lopez

Ignoring the Invitation’s Fine PrintAdriana Giovanna Salazar and Ben Gramling Lopez were married Saturday by the Rev. McKennon Shea, a United Methodist minister, at the Duke University Chapel in Durham, N.C.The bride, 30, will continue to use her name professionally. She is a financial adviser, specializing in mergers and acquisitions, at Evercore Partners, an investment bank in New York. She graduated cum laude from Duke and received an M.B.A. from the University of Pennsylvania. She is the daughter of V...

Ignoring the Invitation’s Fine Print

Adriana Giovanna Salazar and Ben Gramling Lopez were married Saturday by the Rev. McKennon Shea, a United Methodist minister, at the Duke University Chapel in Durham, N.C.

The bride, 30, will continue to use her name professionally. She is a financial adviser, specializing in mergers and acquisitions, at Evercore Partners, an investment bank in New York. She graduated cum laude from Duke and received an M.B.A. from the University of Pennsylvania. She is the daughter of Victoria Salazar and Alfonso Salazar of Whittier, Calif. The bride’s father is a service technician for gas appliances with the Southern California Gas Company in Los Angeles. Her mother is a secretary at the Los Angeles County district attorney’s office.

The groom, 32, is a consultant at Accenture, the information technology and management consultancy, in New York. He also graduated from Duke. He is a son of Jo Willa Gramling Lopez of Gramling, S.C., and Otto B. Lopez of Bedminster, N.J. His mother is the executive director of the Children’s Advocacy Center of Spartanburg, Cherokee and Union Counties in Spartanburg, S.C., which is part of the National Children’s Alliance, a national organization in Huntsville, Ala., that seeks to help children who have been victims of abuse. She retired as the general counsel for global banking from Merrill Lynch in New York. His father, who also is retired, was a director of operations at Merrill Lynch and also worked in New York. He was in charge of the process that provided clients with tax forms.

The couple met in October 2006 at a gathering of Duke graduates in New York. Ms. Salazar and Mr. Lopez had been students there at the same time, but had never met. Ms. Salazar found this puzzling.

“Suspicious would be a polite word to use,” he said. “She didn’t really seem to care for me; uh, she was not really interested in me.”

Still, Mr. Lopez was taken with Ms. Salazar and slipped her his telephone number at the end of the night. She was dating someone else at the time, so she never called, and Mr. Lopez tried to put her out of his mind.

In January 2007, Mr. Lopez received a group e-mail inviting him to watch a Duke basketball game at Brother Jimmy’s, a bar and restaurant on the Upper West Side. Mr. Lopez showed up, having missed the “ladies only” line in the message. When he got to the bar and saw Ms. Salazar he was delighted. As it turned out, no one else she knew had come and the two of them began talking.

“Prince Charming came to rescue me sitting alone in the bar,” she said. “But I was still not romantically inclined.”

They both enjoyed the game, which Duke won, and discovered that they had more in common — work and being the children of immigrants — than college. Ms. Salazar’s parents are from Mexico; Mr. Lopez’s father came from Cuba. They made plans to meet for the next Duke game and did so for the rest of the basketball season, whenever Mr. Lopez was not traveling for work. When the season ended, Ms. Salazar thought she would not see him until the next season.

But on May 4, he called and asked if she wanted to get together the next day to celebrate Cinco de Mayo. Ms. Salazar said yes, assuming it would be the usual: a friendly time. Yet when they saw each other, both sensed it was something more. They shared their first kiss that night. MARGAUX LASKEY

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